It's tough being a super hero

10 Little itty bity things....

I wrote this a while ago but decided to share...

I decided to write this, well just because.

10 Things never to say to a parent of a child with Autism

1. I don't know how you do it.

Duh! I don't know how I do it either. Must you keep reminding me each time you see me? I just do what I have too.

2. I could never do what you do.

Duh again. This is usually said by the same person who says the above. Do me a favor? Just count you blessings you don't have too.

3. Why did you have him if you knew he was going to be Autistic?

Because life begins at conception and I choose not to play God.

4. Why did you have more if you already had a child with Autism?

This one is plain rude. Because God blessed me so. And none of them will ever go unloved.

5. Is he like Rainman?

Are you?

6. My kid just won't shut up today.

This one makes me want to cry. If I can ever have a conversation with my son, I will never utter that.

7. Can you control your child?

One day in my shoes will take away your foggy perception of a crystal clear situation.

8. I can barely control my one child, and I watch you with (autistic child's name) and feel like a loser.

I am not the one to give you the pat on your back you seek. I am still trying to catch my breath.

9. Do you think you are being punished?

Only by this question...

10. Why do you think God did this to you?

What is someone thinking when they ask this? C'mon... Because HE knew that my child would need someone extraordinary, like me, to love him the and protect him from people like you.

Diania Alfonso

mother of three

10-10-08

Snow Babies...

So we got our first snow this week, well probably our only snow for the year, LOL. The kids had a blast in all 1in of it :) This was actually Chris's first snow and he had a blast. It was so neat to see his little face look so puzzled at all this white stuff at first. Tony ran and ran and ran. He was still just as fast in the snow. Will froze his fingers while trying to make snowballs with his friends. It was so much fun. Too bad we couldn't make a Frosty though :(

I had a "Hair Affair" shhhhh.....

Today was such a good day for me. Thank you God..... Those days are not as frequent as I would like them to be. I decided to go to the salon and get my hair done. It had been almost a year since I treated myself with some high lights and a good cut. So I go to this new salon which I am so excited about and have an appointment with my new "male" hairdresser. My first "male" hairdresser. As any lady knows, just to have your hair played with is an awesome feeling. So he puts the high lights in and I go under the dryer and then off to the sink for the rinse. Now listen closely because this is where it all takes place. So he begins to wash. Now in all fairness the "wash" is my favorite part of the salon experience. Unexpectedly during my wash he begins to massage my neck and scalp soooooooo good. Yes, this is typical treatment for the salons that I go too, :) But this was by far my best massage yet. He massaged, my neck, scalp, forehead, temples, wow. This is something I had only experienced with my husband in the shower. LOL! Well I left that salon feeling soooo good and relaxed, invigorated even!

When Carlos called, I told him about it and he accused me of having a "hair affair"! And then we laughed.

I guess I did. I love that man and miss him so much......my husband people! :)

Diania

Welcome New Year

As you know 2008 was one of the toughest years yet for us. Tony regressed significantly and that turned our home upside down. Among the chaos, Carlos deployed early October to Afghanistan for six months. But through it all we have had some bright areas. Chris started full-time preschool this past year and is thriving there. For the first time in 10 years I am home alone. Although I cried and cried when I put him on that bus back in August, today I love Mondays :) Tony started some intense ABA therapy and started to give us his first words in 7 years! Just the other day in Lowes, he said bathroom and pointed. Of course I dropped everything and can't remember the last time I was so happy to walk into a public restroom. William is flourishing in school as usual. This year he is apart of academic derby which is teams of AIG students who compete against other schools on local TV. I am so proud of each of them.

Carlos is doing well in Afghanistan and misses us dearly as he does his whole family. As of today he has 75 days left, but who's counting. He is extremely bored there and has been through a small earthquake. He calls us pretty much everyday and we live by the phone for that phone call. As for me, I miss him more than I can express. Some days are easy and some are well, not so easy. As for the new year 2009, we have a lot to celebrate. Health, happiness, family, love. Heck even a new President. As I sit here and type this it is snowing outside. Coming from Miami I can appreciate the white beauty. I wish health and happiness to all.

Thank you for being our lives and thank you for all your prayers. Keep 'em coming... LOL!

God bless you all,

Diania